Riding: When One Partner Sets the Pace

In riding, one partner lies on their back while the other sits or kneels on top, usually facing each other. The key difference from many other positions: whoever's on top controls pace, depth, and angle — and can adjust in real time to whatever feels good right then.

How it works

The partner on the bottom has their hands free to touch hips, stomach, chest, or clitoris, while the partner on top decides how they move: up and down, back and forth, in circles. Switching between sitting upright and leaning slightly forward changes the angle noticeably — worth trying both.

Why it's so popular

Because nobody has to guess. The partner on top feels immediately which angle and pace work, and can adjust live instead of leaving it up to the other person. That makes this position especially good for figuring out what works for the two of you in the first place.

Small adjustments, big difference

• Leaning slightly forward instead of sitting upright changes the contact noticeably — try both.
• The partner on the bottom can add stimulation with one hand while the other holds hips or thighs.
• A reverse variation (facing the bottom partner's feet) changes both the angle and the view completely.

Who it's especially good for

Anyone who likes deciding for themselves how fast and how deep things go. For the partner on the bottom, it's pleasantly relaxed — hands free, body doing little of the work. One pacing tip: whoever's on top can get out of breath if they push too hard, too fast — short pauses are completely normal and won't kill the mood.